We can do better

Over the past week we have seen examples from both sides of the abortion issue demonstrating that extremes are often irrational. First, a member of the Missouri state legislature used the term ‘consensual rape’ (the epitome of an oxy-moron) during a debate regarding a new anti-abortion law. He later admitted he misspoke and apologized. Click here. Later in the week, a pro-abortion site resurrected a ‘study’ from 2015 which claimed that 95% of women who have abortions experience no regret. What they failed to point out was that 68% of the women asked to participate in the study refused, for whatever reason, but I can’t imagine that it was because they were feeling good about their decision. Click here.

Why are we so inclined to speak ‘out of our minds’ or even lie when it comes to something with so much at stake for everyone involved? My guess is passion, and in these two cases, misguided passion. One definition of passion calls it a strong and barely controllable emotion. (For sure.) Now as we all know, passion can be a great thing, and in many cases, it guides our lives to do great things. But once our passion becomes irrational, it becomes a bad thing. It becomes something that no longer serves any good purpose, leading us away from a good cause and towards something that looks more like self-gratification. (‘I can’t bear the thought of me being wrong, so I’ll just grasp onto anything, true or not, to support my position.’)  No need to bring up sports, politics or religion here, right? And the true test of when our passion has gone off the rails is when you absolutely refuse to consider the other side’s position. When regardless of the thoughtfulness of the argument, you will not listen, and you immediately put up the wall and counterattack. It’s at this point we need to step back and realize that nothing ever gets better when we refuse to listen, refuse to consider an alternate reality. We need to remember that no one is ever 100% wrong or 100% right. (Well, Christ is pretty much on target, but then again, He is the Son of God. 😊)

So, what are we going to do here? Are we going to continue to bang our heads, lower ourselves to name calling and misrepresenting the truth? Are we going to continue to have these generational changes in the tide, where for 50 years abortion is OK, and then it’s not OK? And all along literally millions of lives are lost, relationships tossed, and hearts broken? Nobody truly believes in their heart that the best solution for an unintended pregnancy is to simply terminate it. No one marches in the street for the right to have a living being pulled from a mother’s womb. I’m pretty sure that if provided with an acceptable alternative that doesn’t end the life of the child, we would all be thrilled. (And, although this is not an advertisement for adoption, it is one solution.) I’m not sure what the ultimate solution would be that would respond to the needs of all parties, but I do know that we as a civilization can do better than terminating a life – any life – and think we are done with the problem.

As I said, passion can be a wonderful thing. Can you imagine what we can do if we turn all of this amazing passion and resources on both sides to finding a humane solution that considers all of the circumstances, without knee-jerk party line reactions? If we started with a premise to put unconditional love and acceptance for one another as our goal how would that change the world?  We have been able to achieve so much in just the last century when it comes to health care and yet absolutely no innovation when it comes to the number one cause of death for babies in the womb. We can do better if only we would be willing to listen, consider and take our focus off of being on the winning team. Who’s willing to discuss this like adults? How about a Pro-Solution movement?

The Baby v. the bath water

There is a long history of giving babies their first baths in the kitchen sink.  I can remember doing it a few times myself. After laying down a sort of spongy base, sitting one of our kids in the sink, filling it up with warm water and using that spray nozzle thing to hose off the soapy lather, and then, watch it magically all go down the drain.  After a certain age though, something about laying in that increasingly tepid cloudy water seemed less appealing to me.  It’s most likely the reason that the thought of recycling that water for something like lemonade doesn’t usually come to mind.  Then I recently read a beautiful description of the baptism of Christ by John the Baptist in the waters of the Jordan.

We can imagine the sinless Jesus stepping into the water, taking upon himself the conditions of our sinfulness, and absorbing from the sin laden water all the sins of humankind unto himself.

Sort of a flip of course, as Jesus is again willing to do what most would abhor.  Then for some reason, the phrase ‘throwing out the baby with the bath water’ came to mind.  Most of us have heard it used when something really good is eliminated when trying to get rid of something bad.  The connection is simply this:  There are many of us who have done just that.  Because of some minor disagreement, some isolated indiscretion, some affront to our sensibilities, relationships have ended.  Lifelong friendships and associations are no longer. 

We saw this, sadly, during the last presidential election.  We see this a lot when it comes to the church.  The actions or dogma-spin of church leadership disappoints or even repulses us, in most cases rightfully so.  But we need to remember at these times what truly drew us to our faith.  It was Jesus.  There are countless millions of people who have yet to separate their relationship with their church (whichever one it may be) from their relationship with Jesus.  Many of which even reject Jesus because of some misguided belief that church membership is a requirement for salvation.  Well I am here to tell you, ‘That just ain’t true!’

And although that little perfect baby sits squarely in the depths of the forgiven sins and inequities of those who are His church, He remains forever spotless.  For He is God and we are not.  And although we may justify the rejection of our own offenses and corruptible institutions, let’s never reject the core of our true relationship with our Creator:

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life…John 3:16

This baby, like all babies, is worth saving.

Living in the Context of Christ

The world can be a lonely place.

When I was a college student, I spent my share of late nights alone in my bedroom working on some project or paper that was due the next day. In the quiet of the early morning hours, the rest of the house, and seemingly the rest of the world, would be asleep leaving me to my task. I knew that there was no one that could help me, and in whatever few hours I had until the sun rose it was all up to me to make it happen. It’s at times like those that I’ve felt the most alone.

The world can be a scary place.

There were times when I was really unsure as to what was going to happen tomorrow. I had just graduated college with no prospects for a job, my girlfriend of four years had just left me for an older man, and I was about to embark on a cross country road trip with my best friend at the time, having never been more than a couple of hundred miles away from home. Coming from a childhood and home life of routine and certainty, it seemed a bit unnerving.

In those days I had barely developed any sense of perspective. My only context was of my earthly life and past experience, which was at best, average, and relatively limited. With that as my toolbox it was no wonder that I entered my adult life ill equipped for such formidable emotions like loneliness and fear of the unknown. Thank God, though, that would change. And although the journey has been long and slow, I was reminded last week just how far I’ve come in 40 years, by a verse from a song I heard in church:

On Christ, The Solid Rock, I stand. All other ground is sinking sand.

In a world full of uncertainty, fear, sorrow, calamity, and evil, I often wonder how non-believers muster up the courage to get out of bed each morning. I pray for them that they will one day experience the joy of living a life within the context of Christ. That they too will come to know that they are loved beyond any ability for any of us to understand. I pray they see that our Creator’s relentless pursuit of each of His creations will one day win out and everything we once thought was so important or so scary will evaporate and a new and amazing life, an eternal life, will be theirs as it was meant to be. I pray that each and every soul out there would operate in the reality that Christ’s sacrifice was made on behalf of all, regardless of any doubt we may have as to our ‘worthiness’ or beliefs. Lastly, I pray we all start our day thankful in that knowledge and eager to see what awaits.

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39

Gold, Frankincense, Myrrh…and a gray belt

I grew up in an era when you wore black shoes with a blue suit, and the color of your belt (you always wore a belt) matched the color of your shoes: black shoes, black belt; brown shoes, brown belt. Well, over the years I got a cool pair of gray boots and a gray pair of casual shoes, and somewhere along the line I lost a gray belt. I mention all this because I recently went to wear those gray shoes and realized I had to go with a black or white (eeek!) belt; or Heaven Forbid, no belt at all! That got me to take a quick inventory of my life and I realized that I was in the very enviable position of having all of my needs met, other than a gray belt. This is how well God has blessed me. A gray belt was all I needed. Pretty trivial, right? I am guessing that for most of us the same is true.  Consider what you really need to live a good life: a roof over your head, somewhere safe and warm to sleep, food on the table, a decent job – the basics.

Of course, life is certainly more than surviving to our life expectancy, but for the purpose of this rant, I’m focused on true needs vs. wants.  Now think about the gifts that were presented to the Holy Family when Jesus was born – Gold, Frankincense and Myrrh.  One might say that Jesus and family had more pressing needs than some incense and flashy jewelry.  But this is truly a case of God anticipating a real need and meeting it. For, soon after receiving these gifts, Mary and Joseph had to flee Israel with their son to Egypt to escape the ‘slaughter of the innocents’ ordered by King Herod in his attempt to snuff out this rival ‘King’. Gold was, and remains, the international currency. Frankincense and Myrrh were treasured even more so in their ultimate destination of Egypt because of its pivotal use in the customs of mummification and idol worship.  So here we have God establishing a tradition of using those with much to bless those in need.

So where am I going with all this?  It being Christmas soon, I am reminded that although the gratuitous giving of gifts is probably nice for the recipient, it is often a burden for the giver.  (“What are we going to get your Mother?”)  A burden in that, these gifts for the most part are not responding to a true basic need, but more to this unspoken ‘obligation to give’ that often leaves both parties somewhat relieved when it’s over.  (Of course, unless you’re a kid.)  And in the tradition of the wise men (well-off) gifting to the Holy family (in need), I’m proposing that the giving part of our annual celebration be directed to those with real needs and not so much those who will likely not remember what they got a year from now anyway.  So, although I truly appreciate the kind gesture of your holiday gift, I would be so very thrilled if you instead directed your generosity and resources to those who have real needs, and not just during Christmas.  Because you see, I did get that belt, so I’m good. Merry Christmas to All!

Hope for the hopeless

Have I mentioned that I am married to an angel?  This latest act of divine spousal intervention began back in January.   As some of you know, through a series of unfortunate events we found ourselves fostering a pair of older cats.  These seemingly inseparable cats were saved by Ellie as she and her sisters worked to settle the estate of an uncle back east.  With no one willing to take on the two older felines, there was no humane alternative but to bring them home.

As part of their new life in Arizona, my dear wife had the prophetic foresight to rename them, Joy and Hope.  Both needed lots of care and poor Joy, we came to find out, was quite ill, and after a short while we had to let her go to her well deserved rest.  Enter our 12-year-old resident cat, Buddie.  Those who know Buddie, know him as a friend to all, even the occasional transients that find their way to our doorstep.  So, I became quite disappointed to see that although Buddie was OK with Hope (and the special food we were feeding her) Hope was quite aggressive towards Buddie.  There were several serious altercations between the two, and Buddie, not one for confrontation, got the worst of it and slowly disengaged himself by spending more time outside or in the garage.   This led to herculean efforts by my wife to keep the peace and somehow make this work as she had done so many times in the past.  This in turn, caused me no small resentment towards what I began to see as this new little trouble maker.

Now at this point I must say that Hope is a sweet little cat that loves people and is always friendly and playful, a real peach.  But for a time there I could not see any of that, especially after one of those horrific cat fights.  At those times, I would not remember the horrible conditions from which she was saved, her trauma of relocating across country then losing her lifelong companion Joy, or her introduction into a totally alien environment complete with what we believe was the only other cat she had ever seen (besides Joy).  I was only interested in my peace, and my needs.  But the weeks turned to months and as I witnessed the patience, love and devotion my own earth angel modeled, something happened to me.  I began to see our little Hope as her true self, simply one of God’s creatures in desperate need of our love.  I began to spend more time with her and we bonded.  The empathy and compassion that comes so naturally for some was finally beginning to take hold of my heart.

After close to six months, and although the aggression towards Buddie was still there, I began to understand that Hope was indeed a gift from God.  A gift that I may not have wanted, but certainly needed.  I’ve learned a little more about patience, a little more about compassion and acceptance and a lot more about trusting God to work all things out for the good.

Happy ending!  When it became clear that the cat-friction was continuing to have very negative effects on both Hope and Buddie, our cat therapist (yes, that’s what I said) recommended that we try again to re-home Hope.  Reluctantly, we began to make inquiries and within two hours of posting a notice at a local senior living community, we got a call from a lovely woman interested in meeting Hope!  The next day we dropped Hope off at her new home, one for which she traveled thousands of miles and suffered through several traumas.  She now lives peacefully, not at all aware of the role she has played in helping me become a little less hopeless.

Therefore, my dear friends,…continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling (awe), for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.”  Phil. 2:12-13

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.”    Ezekiel 36:26

Praise God!


Won’t you be my Neighbor?

Do you remember Mr. Rogers?  I recently saw a trailer for this new documentary about Mr. (Fred) Rogers.  I imagine that most of us have either seen Mister Rogers Neighborhood as a kid or watched with your kids.  If you have, you’ll agree he’s not easy to forget.

I got to thinking about my perception of the man.  If I am honest, I have to say that I probably thought he was a bit of a flake.  Really, is this guy for real?  But, like a lot of things I used to think, age, scripture and thoughtful consideration have peeled away enough layers of world view for me to glimpse the real truth.  I may have thought that he was a little too gentle, a little too kind.  (Like there’s such a thing as being too gentle or too kind…There’s that world view thing again.)  I may have even thought he was a wimp.  But now (thankfully) I see him as he truly was – simply as a disciple of Christ (he was a Presbyterian minister) preaching in the best way that he could the message of Jesus Christ.  Now I have a new-found admiration for the man, partly because of his commitment to the message, and partly because he probably knew that people like me would see him as a flake but never wavered.

And what about the message?  I think we all know the song sung at the opening of the show:

It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood; a beautiful day for a neighbor;  Would you be mine? Could you be mine?…

Now the Old Testament concept of neighbor was rather restrained, limited to ‘those of their own nation, or to their own friends; holding, that to hate their enemy was not forbidden by the law’ (ATS Bible Dictionary).  Then Christ comes along and flips everything upside down, summed up with the parable of the Good Samaritan.  (Just a reminder that the Samaritans were despised by the Israelites, considered enemies, and in no way what any Jew at the time would consider a neighbor.)

In the parable (Luke 10:25-37), Jesus redefines the term neighbor from one of proximity or friendly association, to one of universal relationship.  Basically, he tells us to remove the limits we place on our compassion, our tolerance and our love to include even those we consider our enemies.  We should have no enemies, in that at the very least, everyone we encounter should receive our good wishes and prayers.  And with this definition, we all can be neighbors regardless of where we live, if we all choose to first live in the Kingdom of God.  So, when Brother Fred asks us in the song’s final reprise, “Won’t you be my neighbor?”, the invitation is to share a relationship rather than a zip code.

The true brilliance of his approach is that it comes at the level a 5-year-old can grasp, with the glorious hope that the message will take root and withstand the attacks that ultimately come with worldly living.  Neighborly love, or agape love, is the message, unconditional and without thought of return, simply because we can choose to.  As God chooses to love us, regardless.

“Love is at the root at everything, all learning, all relationships, love or the lack of it.” – Fred Rogers

Oh yeah, and he wore some snappy sweaters!

Why I post about God on social media

There is no escaping the fact that we humans are creatures that regularly seek validation.  We love to be right, and even more, love to hear that we are.  The dramatic rise of social media and its universal appeal very clearly proves this.  And like any new technology it has come with some revolutionary benefits and some cautionary lessons that demand attention.  So, in a very short time, we are trying to figure out what is, and what is not appropriate to say when your audience is literally the rest of the world.  I think about the great minds of our civilization – Aristotle, Socrates, Aquinas, Lincoln – and what else we may have learned had they their own blog.  I also immediately hear the verse from the musical, Jesus Christ Superstar, when Judas laments:

“..If you’d came today, You could have reached a whole nation, Israel in 4 B.C had no mass communication!”

So, one of the questions regularly debated on SM is when (and where) it is appropriate for God to be interjected into the conversation.  “Never discuss politics or religion in polite company.”  For the most part, good advice, since these two topics stir extraordinary passion, and as such, argument is highly unlikely to change the mind of any challenger regardless of your own apparently justified rationale; and, on occasion cause serious fractures in otherwise solid relationships.  (Think recent election)  So for the most part, I would agree that unless you are posting on a blog site that specifically is geared to these sorts of debates, trying to actively evangelize on sites like Facebook or LinkedIn may not be beneficial to your cause.  Now, that said, I guess I could be accused of actually doing just that more than a couple of times.  And, after reading a couple of recent objections to what would be considered someone’s ‘religious’ post on LinkedIn, my own inner desire for validation prompted me to consider why God is so much part of my social expression.

Some context:  I am a Christian.  I have spent a good deal of my later adult life studying, reading, and researching the subject of Christianity in order to support my now well founded personal beliefs.  Some believers don’t need hard evidence, their faith is sufficient.  Not me, I needed to see sufficient proof to the point of even travelling to Israel and standing on the sites where scripture took place.  Once I became convinced, it allowed my faith room to move me forward.  And once convinced the premise of who I am, and what my purpose was completely changed.  Totally.

(Warning: the following is my opinion and I am not asking you to agree.)  And this monumental change I believe is what lies beneath most objections to any discussion about God.  Fear of change.  Fear that the God-less foundation that many of us have / had built our lives upon would be shattered and some other less-type life would need to be accepted……but I digress.  Remember I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, simply stating why I post about God.  😊

And once convinced of the voracity of the New Testament and the teachings of Jesus Christ, they became my go-to wisdom for most any situation, personal, family, relationship and business, much like the same way I would unhesitatingly recommend Dale Carnegie, Warren Buffet or Steve Jobs in areas where those individuals have demonstrated some level of wisdom.  To ignore Judeo-Christian teachings in a thoughtful consideration of any subject, in my opinion, would demonstrate either plain ignorance or a denial that must be based in fear – that fear of having to admit that there actually may be something to what Jesus has to say.  (A similar fear that prohibits Republicans and Democrats from ever agreeing on anything it seems, ever.)   And once having opened my mind to applying the teachings of Christ to my life, there was not a situation to which I could not see their application and experience success.  Not one.  ‘What Would Jesus Do?’ really does work as long as we know Jesus, and are willing to accept the answer he provides.

So there it is.  Why do I post about God, and in my case, Jesus Christ?  Mostly because every time I read something, anything, social issue, political issue, business predicament, personal crisis, family disaster…guns, war, gender discrimination, abortion, immigration, unemployment, low wages…I truly believe I have the answer, straight from the source that created us and knows how we work best:

“Love** one another (Yes, even your enemy).  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”   (**’wish them well’ is the translation that works for me.)

I believe it, knowing first that there will be plenty of people who will think me naive, simple, or ‘religious’.  To those people I beg your patience and forgiveness.  But I also know that there will be some, or even just one hidden in the crowd, who may be seeking their own validation in this belief wherever they can find it, FB, LinkedIn, wherever; that is until they understand that the only validation that means anything is from our heavenly Father and Creator…in my opinion.

Drop your stones, people!

The divine brilliance of God’s Word is literally at our fingertips.  He’s given us His vast wisdom, not surprisingly, most of which having to do with simply getting along with one another.  Yet, we regularly ignore it.  For instance, the amount of energy we spend as a society in accusation and condemnation is quite disheartening – don’t you agree?  Don’t you think that at least as much energy should be spent in reconciliation and redemption?  This apparent drive of ours to root out every little misstep, and immediately crucify.  It’s a bit much.  There’s the press, the politicians, the media, the socially righteous, the right, the left, the self-proclaimed victims and so on, all clamoring for punishment for each and every wrong.  (I’m sure I’m in there, too.)

With cameras on us constantly, every misspoken word or weird facial expression winds up as more material for Jimmy Fallon’s nightly monologue. Such effort, such expense, such distraction.  ’Methinks thou dost protest too much!’  Now, understand, I am all for the obliteration of the inequities that exists in this world.  Outing things like racism, bigotry, bias and discrimination of course should be the way of all good citizens, and the duty of all good Christians.  However, it seems to me at least, that we fall so way short in our efforts because of our eagerness to first pin accountability on the one caught in the act, instead of addressing the underlying fractures in our society’s moral structure.  Where’s the follow up?  Who’s talking about the changes that need to be made in each of us so that social injustices don’t require a riot or revolution or public outing to get addressed?   Hypocrites we are.  We sell and buy sexuality at every turn, and then are outraged if someone admires a woman’s figure in a pair of jeans.  (That guy’s got to be fired!)

Now, take Jesus for instance – which is always a good way to start.  Think about how he handles the case of the women accused of adultery (John 7:53 – 8:11).  Quick recap: Jesus’s adversaries look to catch him in a trap.  They present to him a woman allegedly caught in the act of adultery.  (So, where’s the male participant in all of this, right?)  The accusers remind Jesus that the punishment for adultery is death (Lev. 20:10).  In this case, they seek death by stoning.  They also seek Jesus’s approval, which for a teacher of love and mercy puts him in a bit of a pickle.  Or so they think, since any appeal for mercy is in direct conflict with the law.  So here they stand with stones in hand, ready to immediately carry out the sentence upon the accused, and maybe even Jesus.  And then something really outrageous happens.  (I’ll allow the narrative to make the point):

When they kept on questioning him, (Jesus) straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her….”

 9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older (wiser) ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

11 “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

As I said: brilliant.  Jesus exposes the hypocrisy, allows the accusers to consider their own short comings, has the accused acknowledge her sin, and teaches us all a little bit about mercy – if we ever want it, we need to give it, because believe me we all are going to need it sooner or later.  So the next time we are ready to chuck a stone, let’s also consider an offer of redemption.